Kernel of motivation
Being better lies somewhere between change and resignation. A thought, a feeling, an urge, an advice or their absence guides towardsteh need of improvement, change, escape, relief. The path chosen in taking action differs, yet the destination is always the same – improved well-being, a life well lived, purpose, happiness. Often unconscious, they guide life’s trajectory, behavior, they explain and determine feelings thus identifying, changing, guiding or accepting them become essential tools, the vehicle of a tangible, authentic and fulfilling journey.
Change is inevitable, its consequences taking place regardless of will. It can used as a tool of fine shaping or it can randomly influence the uncosncious patters of daily living. The manifestation of behavior patterns, social interaction and emotional activity is bound to reinforcement by repetition. They are a constant active part of life, subjet to continuous reshaping, as a result of repetition emphasis, generating change even in the absence of guided intervention. Therefore the self can be consciously fine-tuned or left to harden unconscious mechanisms. The shape that change takes depends on awarness and active guidance of all the shapeable elements that comprise the self and acceptance and management of the unshapable ones.
Time may cure all but it doesn’t change the essence. Real, substantial change in agreement with the self comes from within, being the result of action on the inner and outer individual. The degree and intensity of said change is determined among othersby limit and potential. Physical and mental manifestiation is predefined by the human intrinsic ability of puting them into action or not. These setting differ from a person to another, yet they are not fixed. Evolution and change never stop, and their extent is expressed through potential, which itself is not a fixed measure. Eveyrhing is bound to change, and stimulation of inner potential is a valuable tool in the journey of well-being.
Consistency is essential. There is an inner balance of all there is nature including people. Apart from a purposeful effort of control, a certain behavior, thought or feeling manifests itself the same way everytime, with an almost precise intensity that circles a point of balance. Each inconsistency that influences an event determines a variation (small or large) in the intensity of activation. Effort can enhance the variation and distance the event from it’s typical point of balance. Distancing one’s self from activation patterns can be beneficial or detrimental depending on the situation, yet the effort needed for a significant enough variation will always have consequences, regarldless the result. During change and the attempt of achieving potential it is esential to constantly guide our actions towards creating a new balance point, a new typical pattern more beneficial for well-being, rather than the inconsistancy of random, sporadic efforts of achieving „balance”.
Well-being is the result of a life well lived in a truly beneficial, fulfilling and authentic way. It is the result of finding a balance of event activation that overlaps necesity. Chance is the core of it, since often, needs change with time. Personal and professional experience proved to me that real, consistent change, the one that determines the achievement of true potential in living one’s own life and finding balance in well-being is the one that comes from a true connection with one’s self. There alone lies the understanding of authentic needs and personal limits and abilities. By understanding and acknowledging the self can optimal well-being be dug out and sowed the kernel of true motivation for living a fulfilling life.
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Colegiul Psihologilor din Romania
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motto: Value is a result of the effort invested into action.
Training and Credentials
Strategic – Integrative Psychotherapy – specialization training
Clinical Psychology – Health Psychology, Clinical Research and Behavioral Optimization
Psychology and Educational Sciences, University of Bucharest
Looking around I see people, their potential and desire to grow, to be better, desire which I share and to the achievement of which I want to be a part of. Furthermore, I see how we all go through difficult moments, when what we need to do seems impossible, when no one understands, when our beloved ones seem as mere strangers or when we regret every decision ever made. These are the moments when we lose confidence in ourselves, our skills, our abilities in dealing with different problems, in the tremendous potential we all have. I truly believe these are the moments when psychotherapy can work wonders, by helping remove the particles that polute our lives, by setting free our potentials and by helping explore our personalities. I also believe that psychotherapy can help us know ourselves better and understand others better. For this alone I wish to inspire others to follow through the potential of a harmonious relationship with one’s self.
Strategic-Integrativ Psychotherapy is open to dialogue both with the client and the therapist through the technical and practical flexibility which it offers. Strongly oriented towards a person’s needs it allows for a three dimensional analysis of the situation, being able to focus both on the symptom as much as on the problem as part of a bigger whole. The two main cores of the framework of strategic-integrative psychotherapy are the self and the psychotherapeutic relationship. The Model of the Self is a modular map containing vertical and horizontal axes that traverse the functioning and functionalities of the psyche. Looking in depth the self comprises four clusters or domains – The Bazal Self, The Central Self, The Plastic Self and the External Self – all of which are in a continuous interaction with the inner and outer environment which contributes to its shaping. The 4 domains are at a crossroads with 6 different axes which dictate how the self is constructed, interacts and functions with all the internal and external elements that influence it. Put together, the four domains and the six axes form a comprehensive model of inner life in which the following areas are analysed: biological, emotional, psychodynamic, cognitive, existential and relational (family). In office practice this translate to the freedom which strategic-integrative psychotherapy offers to the client. Therefore, one can approach their therapeutic needs to the desired detail and to the level with which they feel comfortable with, the model of the self being able to promote both the fine analysis of specific situations and the overall mapping of patterns and functionalities.
In therapy, the client’s interaction with the self and the way they approach a specific problem is supported by the psychotherapist. The two work on the basis of an aliance that transcends typical social interaction patterns being devoid of shape initially, but not of meaning. Although it’s guided by clearly defined principles and requires the therapist to have specific working knowledge, it is special because of its malleability when put into action, since it takes a specific form for each person. Therefore, it’s constructed through the same technical and professional means each times and still manifests itself accord to the specific need of a particular person.
The psychotherapeutic relationship is the vehicle which allows authentic, unaltered exchange of information which stimulates a true connection of the person, the self and the needs. Ultimately it generates profound and authentic communication patterns between client and therapist which will therefore reflect the true state of self everytime. It is a partnership consolidated on mutually agreed terms. Events take part in a certain orden, at a specific location, at a certain time and consider specific objectives, all previously negociated according to the client’s needs. This is the psychotherapeutic „route” that used at every session creates the means of a true exchange, by systematically activating the same neuronal networks and therefore the meaningful work on the person’s specific need.